If you’ve been reading our blog for a while, you’ll already know that [sex isn’t all about penetration](/various-articles/collated-content/potentially-adult-subject-matters/adult-toys-couples-play/have-amazing-sex-without-penetration/). And in the kind of summer heatwave the UK is experiencing at the moment, the best kind of sex can be the sex you have where you barely touch at all – mutual masturbation, solo sex, and other things which don’t involve snuggling up too close to another sweaty human being. But there are a few extra things you can add that’ll help you stay cool, so if you’re simultaneously horny while also hot and bothered, check out our summer heatwave sex tips.
## Sensation play – ice
The ‘put an ice cube in your mouth’ sex tip sounds like a massive cliché, but some clichés are there for a reason. Sensation play with ice cubes is one of the best ways to beat the summer heat. Try running ice cubes over your partner’s body, or placing one in your mouth to give them cold kisses and licks, as demonstrated perfectly in this blog post by our friends over at Jo Divine. [Jo gives a detailed (and NSFW) account of icy sensation play](https://www.jodivine.com/blogs/jo-divines-secret-diary/2015/08/07/cooling-off) which also works as a handy guide on how best to make use of temperature in the bedroom…
> “Chills ran through me, my skin tightening, and I realised he had taken an ice cube and put it in his mouth! The cool kiss began to melt against my heated skin as his mouth travelled lower and lower until his icy lips were on my breast. I was tingling with pleasure, a warmth growing between my legs despite his cold kisses.”
If you are planning on using ice during sensation play, remember that you need to prepare it before you place it directly on someone’s skin, especially if the skin is around the lips or genitals, where ice can potentially stick if it’s too frosty. Take your ice cubes out of the freezer, and either run them under a tap to partially melt the outside layer or – better still – pop them in a glass with some cold water.
## Sensation play – sex toys
Some sex toys – like glass and ceramic dildos – can be warmed up or cooled down for added sensation. For these, use similar techniques to the ice above: don’t ever put your sex toys directly into the freezer, and then use them straight from the freezer on your genitals. That way lies pain and a possible trip to A+E.
