Hey, beautiful, sexy people (it you) and welcome to another blog post from your Fairy Heaux-Muva (it me). Butt racoons. Tukus lingus. Crack snacker. Swabbing the poop deck. These are some of the most hilarious terms I found to name the oral activity that is eating ass, a.k.a rimming.
Today I’m going to teach you about rimming, namely what it is and how to give/receive it in a fun, safe and satisfying way. Eating ass is steadily becoming more normalised (or more people are admitting to doing it -*shrug* whatever), which means we are finally getting over the hump of eating coochie being a big deal (thank god).
This act still has some stigma to shed (because…sex), so if you or your luvah want to explore it, you both may feel weird about bringing it up. I’m all about living your best heaux life, which means unlearning sexual shame and giving yourself the freedom to explore your sexuality is always the vibe. Have a mature, open conversation about it and if you are both up for it, give it a go. This post is packed with useful tips to help you on your way.
## Easing Into It
Anal play can be quite daunting for some people to get into because of physical discomfort and hygiene concerns. But there are a few ways that you can ease yourself into that realm…(pause) and rimming is one of them.
Your anus is a 1 ½ inch canal that is packed with a high concentration of nerve endings. For this reason, it is considered an erogenous zone, which is why many people can derive pleasure from anal stimulation. Rimming consists of performing oral sex on your luvah’s butthole by licking, sucking, kissing, or penetrating the booty with your tongue.
## Hygiene is sexy
I’m really big on personal hygiene, especially when it comes to sex, so this will be my first tip…because…it’s a bum, init. If you are going to be the one receiving analingus, it’s best to use the bathroom at least 2 hours before and to avoid consuming things that make you gassy or generally don’t agree with your digestive system.
Wash your bum with mild soap and warm water before the deed (the closer to the time this is done, the better) and if you really want to make sure your channel is clear, booty douching for the win. Another note for hygiene is not to double-dip if you are performing salad tossing on a vulva owner. If you stick your tongue in a butt, though it might be tempting, try not to go back and forth between the bum and the pussoir as that could cause an infection.
## Safer Sex Practices For Tha Bum
When it comes to backdoor action, the safest way to perform it is by using a dental dam, which is a sheet of latex that you lay over the area to put a barrier between your mouth and any potential infections from digestive bacteria and parasites and STI’s. Like condoms, dental dams also come in different flavours if you feel like treating yourself. Why toss a regular salad when you can toss a fruit salad!
If you don’t have a dental dam, you can make one by chopping the tip off of a condom and slicing it vertically to make your very own latex sheet. You may want to wipe some of the lube off before you start, as if you’ve ever sucked a dique with a condom on you will know that spermicide is…an acquired taste.
## Developing Your Own Style
When exploring the anal region with your mouth, don’t feel like you have to go all-in (literally and figuratively.) Just as there are many ways to skin a cat, there are many ways to put your mouth on a butt. If you are new to the act and are a bit apprehensive, I suggest starting with the perineum. That’s the small patch of skin between the genitals and the bootyhole, otherwise known as the taint. Explore that area first to see if you’re into it, then if you both like it, edge a little closer. This is a great way to build anticipation and will make it more satisfying for your partner when you finally hit the sweet spot.
You can perform analingus pretty much the same way that you would perform any other form of oral sex. Keep all the action on the surface, licking in circles or up and down, playing with speed and pressure, and if you want to go a little further and penetrate, you can do that too. Their chocolate starfish is your oyster! As with any sexual exploration, it helps to check-in and communicate with your partner. A simple, “How would you like me to do it?” or “Do you like that?” works wonders and allows you to tailor the experience to your partner’s tastes.
## Want to amp up the experience?
Blended orgasms always go down a treat. If you’re the giver, pair your rim job with genital stimulation. Use your hands or (if you’re extra fancy) incorporate toys. On the flipside, if you’re the receiver, whilst your partner is busy being a butt raccoon (still funny) you can stimulate your genitalia yourself. The mix of multiple stimulations happening all at once will make the experience more intense and your orgasms more powerful.
Hot Octopuss Digit Finger Vibrator Sex ToyWhen it comes to toys, for vulva-owners I recommend [DiGiT by Hot Octopuss](/sex-toys/female-sex-toys/digit-powerful-rumbling-finger-vibrator/). It’s a rumbly finger bullet vibrator that is perfect for clitoral and/or nipple stimulation. As it’s attached to your finger and easy to use, you won’t have to focus too hard on delivering additional pleasure. For penis-owners, [PULSE SOLO is perfect](/sex-toys/male-sex-toys/pulse-solo-lux-penis-vibrating-male-masturbator/). This guybrator is powerful AF and like the DiGiT, its ergonomic design gives you the freedom of emulating your hand movements but with the added bonus of powerful rumbly vibrations.
## Bootylicious Positions
Position-wise, the best ones are standing and then bending at the waist so your butt is poking out. [Or, being on all fours for easier access](https://www.bloodandmilk.com/how-to-give-a-rim-job/). Laying on your back with your legs in the air is also a mood. But it may require more manual ass cheek spreading. Try putting a pillow under your hips to make it a little easier for the giver.
If you’re going for facesitting, receivers, please make sure that you are aware of your partner! This position is likely to disrupt their breathing if you really get into it. Givers, I would recommend that you and your partner create some sort of safety signal to make sure you can breathe. (A tap on the leg or the squeezing of a dog toy usually works.)
I think that pretty much covers the basics. Go forth, have fun, be respectful and be safe my little crack snackers (lol seriously, who made these up!) If you would like more sex tips, you can find me at @ScottyUnfamous on Twitter and Instagram.
