Guest writer Sherrylsworld breaks it down with 8 actionable tips that you can try, and step up your oral game right now. If the Rock can do it, so can you!

For many women, having cunnilingus performed well (in her eyes) is the best thing ever. It is literally the highlight of any sexual encounter.

But what happens when you are unsure of how to navigate the intricacies of the vulva and vagina?

Where do you start?

Where do you end?

How do you know if she’s feeling it?

Is it obvious if she’s not?

So many questions. So many thoughts. So many preconceived ideas.

Tip 1. All women are different

The reality is, all women are different and yes, their downstairs parts will be unique too. Presuming what she looks like, is pointless!

Amazingly, the labia (vaginal lips), come in a variety of shapes, sizes and colours. Some labia appear uniformed whilst others may wobble or hang low.

Every vulva has an individual smell too! That’s perfectly normal provided the odour is not foul or fishy.

And the taste. No two vulvae will have the same tang! Factors such as diet, hydration levels and genetics, all play a huge part as far as impacting the flavour goes.

Fact! The differences between a woman’s intimate bits extend far further than just how they look, smell and taste!

How they like to be eaten, varies too.

Pleasure is such a personal thing.

When it comes to receiving oral titillation, it’s fair to say; some women hanker for long deep, flat strokes against their clit whilst others may prefer a more frantic and erratic approach.

Some may like it light and fluttery whilst others may prefer the attention to be fixed solely on the clit.

It’s potentially a minefield of confusion but there are a few pro tips that could go some way towards helping you crack the coochie code!

Tip 2. Don’t be shy, talk to her.

Most women have a good idea of what they like.

Through masturbation and exploring her own body, she will have an idea of what gets her going and how.

Ask her!

Don’t be put off from asking her whether she likes it this way or that. Let her know she has options and that it’s OK for her to express her desires.

We already know communication is key when it comes to sex (and relationships), so showing her you’re actually interested in what she likes and expressing that, would not only be a huge turn on for most but will also help get the results you are aiming for.

Tip 3. Take your time

Slow and steady always wins the race and it’s no different here.

Think of oral sex a bit like a sumptuous feast. The appetizers are designed to whet the pallet with the main course being the highlight.

It is important to remember, the best female orgasms tend to build over time. Tantalise and stimulate her. Allow the anticipation to increase and then, go in for the kill!

Having said that, understanding the importance of the clitoris when it comes to her pleasure, is essential.

For many women, clitoral stimulation in some form is a party starter however, some women are very sensitive. In this instance, direct stimulation may prove too intense. It’s always worth asking how she likes it. Again, communication for the win here!

Thanks to the 8 thousand nerve endings, the clitoris is potentially, the hottest spot of all. However, it is crucial that the rest of the vulva is not neglected because of it. Showing love to all its other part may prove just as satisfying.

Tip 4. Toys can feature too!

Introducing a finger or two and perhaps even a finger vibrator or bullet vibrator, could earn you extra pleasure points. Plus, it could offer some respite for a tongue that’s been going at it for some time.

KURVE G-spot vibrator could be an ideal candidate.

Imagine stimulating her internally with the patented dual -motor Treble and Bass technology that this little bad boy provides whilst dining at the Y.

The result could be knee trembling!

Of course, consent to use toys would be needed.

If in doubt, ask!

Alternating between the two can be super exciting for the recipient so don’t be afraid to experiment.

Tip 5. You’ve got to be in it to win it…

Major key: only ever go down on a woman if you really want to.

There’s not much worse than being orally stimulated by someone that isn’t into it. It shows and that could be a passion killer.

As with anything sexual, providing someone with pleasure is a massive turn on but, you have to want to do what you are doing.

Show her that you actually want to taste her.

Get your face in it. Use every part of your tongue from the tip through to the underside. Let your lips and mouth get involved. Let her know you came to please!

Finally, when she does start coming, DO NOT STOP the onslaught!

By continuing the tongue action, you are literally transporting her to another realm of fulfilment.

Unless she specifically tells you to stop, keep going. The result will be magnificently intense for both her and you!

Tip 6. Three things you probably shouldn’t do

Freak out over pubes: if she has pubes and a hair gets stuck in your teeth, do not make a big deal about it. Discreetly remove the hair and pick up where you left off. Making a big song and dancing about one measly hair, could make her feel self-conscious and ultimately, kill the passion.

Rush her to finish: whilst checking in to ensure she’s enjoying herself and even encouraging her to cum is fine provided it’s not excessive. Asking her if she’s nearly there continuously, is a no no. It could come across as impatient and bored.

Look but don’t stare: avoid staring at her. Of course, if it’s in your face it would be impossible to unsee, but gaping at her exposed vulva could trigger a bout of shyness even in the most confident of people. If you do want to look and enjoy the view, be sure to reassure her with words of appreciation. Remind her that she is beautiful and that she looks great.

Tip 7. Protect yourself!

As with any form of sex, health comes first.

Having a conversation about your STI status would be a responsible thing to do prior to any sexual situation.

When it comes to oral sex, using a dental dam is an option.

In a nutshell, a dental dam is a thin sheet of latex that covers the vulva before cunnilingus occurs.

It prevents the mouth from direct contact with the skin and can protect against the potential transmitting of STIs during oral sex.

Finding one to purchase in the shops might be an issue though. If you do manage to source one, price wise, they’re definitely more expensive than condoms.

Making one could be the most viable option.

The easiest way to create your own, would be to do so using a latex condom.

Simply open and unroll the condom, cut off both the tip and bottom. Cut down one side, open it up, lay flat across the vagina or anus and boom…. makeshift dental dam!

Tip 8. It’s better to relax

The truth is, fun and engaging consensual sex is where it’s at.

Feeling comfortable and relaxed is the basis for any great sexual encounter including oral sex.

It is also important to remember: good sex is a journey that doesn’t always end in an orgasm. Being able to enjoy the moment without any pressure or expectation, will undoubtedly result in a more satisfying experience all round.