The great thing about National Orgasm Day is that you don’t have to make reservations or organize a big party to celebrate properly, unless that’s what you’re into. You can very easily celebrate at home, by yourself. Of course it’s also fun to celebrate with a special someone, or multiple someone if that’s how you roll.
National Orgasm Day is generally celebrated in the US, UK, and Australia. Of course, pleasure knows no borders! Feel free to celebrate in Canada, Germany, Zimbabwe, or Brazil. Since it’s falling on a weekend you won’t even have to take time off of work.
Penis Owners, Change Up Your Orgasms
If you’re setting aside a few hours, the whole day, or even the whole weekend for pleasure, why not try something new? Now could be the perfect time to explore your erogenous zones, or your partner’s, to discover new ways to reach climax.
Can you cum from nipple stimulation? Can you get the timing right to experience a blended orgasm? Do you want a truly unique edging experience? By delaying your orgasm, you can experience more intensity when you finally tip over the edge! – with a remote control.
For a unique edging experience, solo or with your partner, try the PULSE SOLO LUX, it will really blow your mind . This hands-free toy lets you easily control the intensity of sensation by changing the power and pattern of the vibrations. Because it’s controlled by a handy wrist-mounted remote, either you or your partner can set the pace.
If you’re already pretty adept, you could also challenge yourself. How many times can you or your partner cum on National Orgasm Day? Maybe you’ll set a new personal record, but even if you don’t, you’ll sure have fun trying.
Make Your G-SPOT Sing
If you have a vulva and you want to have a memorable National Orgasm Day, put the focus on your g-spot. Whether you’re making yourself cum or getting your partner to tease one out of you, Hot Octopuss have solved the mystery of the G-spot with the KURVE.
Designed to hit the spot in record breaking time with its ergonomic shape and Treble and Bass technology™, whether alone or with your partner you can discover how to reach a new level of pleasure.
I get great results with the KURVE G-Spot Vibrator. I’ve played with it solo, and also let my partner watch me cum with it. This weekend might finally be their chance to take hold of the KURVE and make me writhe with pleasure.
Why Not Treat Yourself And/or Partner With A Gift?
National Orgasm Day isn’t specifically a gift-giving holiday, but there’s no reason why it couldn’t be. This time you can treat yourself (and maybe your partner).
The obvious choice would be a sex toy that could deliver some mind-blowing orgasms. But you could also use this opportunity to buy something else that might help you get in the mood, like soft new sheets, lingerie or a sexy perfume.
You could also give yourself a gift that doesn’t require buying anything. What can you give yourself that could help you experience more pleasure? It might be the gift of self-acceptance. Or the gift of time, to just enjoy your body without thinking about what you should be doing instead. It could be permission to explore a facet of your sexuality that you’ve walled off.
Yes, We Have An “Orgasm Gap”
A lot of the talk around National Orgasm Day has to do with closing the orgasm gap. If you didn’t already know, this refers to the fact that men reportedly orgasm more frequently than women do. According to one study, only 39% of female-identified people reported “always or usually always” having an orgasm during penetrative sex, as compared to 91% of male-identified people (the study doesn’t appear to have included non-binary people).
There is a chart showing the importance of clitoral stimulation and the most reliable route to vulva owners’ orgasm (Source: Laurie Mintz, Becoming Cliterate):
While it’s important to close that orgasm gap, a healthy sexual relationship should be focused on making sure that both members of the couple have a great time, regardless of their gender identity or genitals.
While the male orgasm has traditionally been considered the culmination in a sexual encounter (a major contributor to the orgasm gap), not a lot of attention is otherwise paid to it. We tend to take for granted that men can cum easily.
If you’re in a relationship with a man, make sure that National Orgasm Day is special for him, too. Even if he does cum easily, don’t leave it at that. Ask him what he’d like to try in order to have a more intense orgasm. Plan an encounter that gives him the chance to recover and enjoy a second round.
Learn More About Sexual Response
Do you or your partner have difficulty reaching orgasm? If so, you are NOT alone. Why not make this National Orgasm Day a day of education? Learn more about the sexual response system. In her book Come as You Are, Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. uses a great analogy of accelerator and brakes. If you and your partner can learn more about what makes you stop and go, you can create better conditions for that Big O.
We put a lot of focus on the orgasm, because it’s so enjoyable. But if you struggle to cum reliably, or at all, feel free to shift the focus on National Orgasm Day. Approach your celebration with a sense of curiosity. Enjoy your body, and/or your partner’s body, and just see what happens. You can dedicate a day to pleasure of any kind, rather than focusing on a goal that you may not be able to attain right away.
Cum Celebrate
Whether you’ll be playing solo or partnered, with toys or without, we hope you have fun this National Orgasm Day. Make time for yourself and for pleasure. Try to learn something new about yourself, your body, and/or your partner. May your orgasms be plentiful and powerful!
Don’t forget to take the poll at the top of this article to share with us how you’ll be celebrating this National Orgasm Day!
Article by Sophia Reading