When we say ‘BDSM sex toys’, most people’s first thoughts are of whips and chains. Bondage restraints, floggers, canes: anything that’s used to cause sexy pain or hold your submissive in position.
But the latest developments in sex toys – particularly male sex toys like the PULSE SOLO ESSENTIAL – mean that BDSM doesn’t just have to mean ‘leather and rope’ – vibrating toys are can be as much a part of your kinky life as a pair of metal handcuffs.
Male sex toys for orgasm torture
Yeah, OK. ‘Orgasm torture’ is a bit of an oxymoron, like ‘unwanted chocolate’. It refers to the kinky act of pulling an orgasm from a supposedly unwilling participant – although naturally within the confines of a role-play scene, having already established consent with the participant and a method for withdrawing consent.
For a long time the BDSM porn world was dominated by submissive women being held on the brink of orgasm by toys like the Hitachi Magic Wand, and now penis-focused orgasm torture is getting a look in.
Toys like PULSE SOLO ESSENTIAL, which can be used for hands-free orgasms, can also be used to give someone an orgasm even if they’re not trying. In BDSM this translates to the dominant having full control of when – and if – someone gets to ejaculate.
Male sex toys for voyeurism
One of the most neglected areas of male masturbation – outside gay porn, of course – is the fact that so many people are turned on by watching guys masturbate. This includes, of course, intimate sessions with their favourite male sex toys. Our writer, Girl on the Net, is one of countless thousands of straight women who get seriously turned on watching men touch themselves (and each other) – that link is not safe for work. But strangely, the message that men can be pretty damn sexy when they’re masturbating hasn’t quite made it to the mainstream media yet.
There are hundreds of articles which recommend straight women bring toys into the bedroom to ‘put on a show’ for their boyfriends, but there’s still a dearth of pieces explaining just how beautiful it is to watch a man enjoy his own pleasure. Perhaps here, as in so many other areas of sex, kinksters can be the pioneers in reversing this stigma.
Male sex toys are a gift to voyeurs and exhibitionists alike – they give aspiring porn stars new and interesting ways to create sexy videos at home (as we were reminded today, when someone tweeted us a seriously hot video of them using their PULSE SOLO ESSENTIAL – that link is not safe for work). Male sex toys introduce a level of variety into your exhibitionist games, as you can order your submissive to pleasure themselves with a toy of your choosing. Combined with orgasm denial and a PULSE SOLO ESSENTIAL, there’s a whole world of mingled pleasure and pain at your disposal.
Male sex toys as wearable devices
As one enthusiastic PULSE customer explained to us, it’s not just a sit-down-and-take-your-time-over-it sex toy, you can wear the PULSE SOLO ESSENTIAL (or PULSE DUO) around the house while you’re doing chores. And ‘you’ is a generic one here – your submissive can also wear it round the house while they do your chores. It’s waterproof, so they can wear it in the shower while they’re soaping your back, or in the passenger seat of your car while you drive them to a play party. Or ‘wear’ it during punishment.
Couples sex toys for BDSM play
It’s not just a toy for the penis, though: PULSE DUO is a couples toy. The same rumbling, oscillating vibrations on the inside, but with an additional vibrator on the outside shell. So if your partner has a clitoris, then you can both enjoy the stimulation of the toy in any one of a number of sex positions.
There are lots of vanilla-flavoured pleasures that come with this, of course, but the addition of a remote control means that you can easily control the level of vibration on your submissive’s clit while you’re having sex: turning the vibrations up and down at the right times means you can submit them to a similar kind of orgasm torture that’s been made famous by wand toys such as the Hitachi and the Doxy.
The BDSM benefit of any sex toy
We couldn’t possibly finish this round-up without mentioning the universal BDSM use for any sex toy. The one thing you can do with male sex toys, female sex toys, ropes, leather, and lube, which slots neatly into any kind of dominance/submission dynamic: toy care.
Making your submissive get the toys out and lay them on the bed – helps build anticipation of a scene and get them wondering how you’re going to use your new playthings. Not to mention the act of cleaning and putting the toys away afterwards. Sure, PULSE SOLO ESSENTIAL is waterproof so it’s pretty easy to clean, but that doesn’t mean your sub wouldn’t appreciate an order to clean it properly so it’s ready for next time…